I could potentially write about this subject endlessly, since it has a plethora of material I could cite and many, many critics who have spoken out against the relatively recent erotica phenomenon, but instead I’ll discuss why as a self-defining feminist and simultaneously sex-positive person that any discussion regarding Fifty Shades of Grey is inherently problematic. To do so, I’ll break it down into three points of discussion:
- Fifty Shades of Grey features a BDSM relationship.
Many people have shown a dislike for the trilogy because of this “fringe” sexual kink, which has previously been widely marginalised. This is a perfectly fine and valid response to a sexual experience which the individual does not enjoy or find appealing. However, a lot of the backlash to this relationship isn’t because of a mere dislike, but because of a conservative and repressive attitude towards sex in general, which leads to intense discomfort and even shaming of those who enjoy BDSM/Fifty Shades of Grey/other sexual kinks.
However, I personally do dislike the sexual relationship portrayed within the novels since I believe it does not portray a healthy or safe attitude towards practicing BDSM, for many reasons. It’s hard to express this particular dislike when many people focus upon a dislike of BDSM, rather than a dislike of it’s execution.
- Fifty Shades of Grey portrays a “typical” heterosexual relationship.
The set up reflects many conventional concepts about romance in the 21st century: a white, heterosexual, cisgendered man who has a lot of money, power and is generally considered attractive. This cis-het-white man becomes enamoured by a shy, passive, young and impressionable white-het-cis woman, who is virginal and extremely naive in many areas. Already the premise sets us up for a huge power imbalance and instead of dissuading us from this notion, Fifty Shades reinforces it. Inspired heavily by the tragically flawed Twilight Saga, Fifty Shades of Grey also inherits many of it’s signifiers for an abusive relationship.
The couple fail to communicate properly frequently, romantically and during sex, which leads to many uncomfortably awkward scenes in which Anna is emotionally manipulated, physically threatened, or coerced into engaging in sex acts she has very little knowledge about. By framing this as a “typical romance”, we reinforce the gendered stereotypes about power, virginity, sex, and abuse which are already destructive in our society.
However, this doesn’t mean that heterosexual couples who like BDSM are inherently anti-feminist or wrong, which is extremely hard to express when talking about Fifty Shades, it is all the minute facets of their characters which derive from tired, centuries-old tropes about women and men which is the problem. The BDSM just complicates things.
I have refrained from using direct quotations, but there are many critics who have discussed Fifty Shades more indepth, I’ve just attempted to give a brief summation of the incompatibility of Fifty Shades with my political and moral outlook.
For more information head here:
http://therumpus.net/2012/05/the-trouble-with-prince-charming-or-he-who-trespassed-against-us/ (Roxane Gay is phenomenal, read anything and everything she’s ever written.)
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=o92hv7La9Sk (LACI GREEN WILL CHANGE YOUR LIFE)
http://www.thefrisky.com/2013-08-15/study-50-shades-of-grey-perpetuates-abusive-relationships/
https://50shadesofabuse.wordpress.com/
http://www.theguardian.com/film/2015/feb/10/fifty-shades-of-grey-protests-imax
http://www.mamamia.com.au/wellbeing/fifty-shades-of-grey-is-actually-physical-assault/